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Frazzled Cafe

Frazzle – Word of the Day

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She only sleeps all day but she’s still frazzled after eating and wandering around the house for a short time. Misty (not my cat) is a rag doll, and just lolls about in typical rag doll ways. But her answer to stress, and she does stress because she hates even small changes to the house or routine, is to rest up, chill out and take time. Not a bad example, though avoidance isn’t helpful for the long term, but resting when frazzled is always a good thing.

I’m finding more and more that the juggernaut of work, even working at play, is dominating people’s lives. My conversations are often around how others feel overloaded and stressed as they try meet their own expectations or the perceived expectations of others. Solutions and judgment are not helpful in such circumstances.

Comedian Ruby Wax, whose book “A Mindfulness Guide For the Frazzled” was published in 2016, has written about slowing down and taking time. But she has gone a step further. Wax has been instrumental in creating Frazzled Cafe  in the UK, a charity set up to provide a listening, non-judgmental space for conversation for those who are overloaded and stressed. What a simple and yet brilliant idea.

Journey friends are so critical to sharing the load through meaningful silence and open, safe conversation. For some that’s possible through friendship, or a professional mentor (coach, life-coach, mentor, or counsellor, professional supervisor), for others, opportunities like Frazzled Cafe are a gift in a stressful world. So, next time you’re chatting with friends, value the time, and know that you’re giving and receiving something quite vital, that release of what must be said.

Paul,

pvcann.com

 

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3 Day Quote Challenge

Day One

Thank you to TravelBug for the nomination and opportunity to participate in the 3 Day Quote challenge.

Rules:

  1.  Thank the person who nominated you.
  2. Post a quote for three consecutive days (one quote for each day).
  3. Share why this quote appeals so much to you.
  4. Nominate three bloggers each day.

 

‘”Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?” “That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat. “I don’t much care where – ” said Alice. “Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat.”‘  Alice’s Adventures In Wonderland – Lewis Carroll

This quote has been one of my favourites for many years. It speaks of how the adventure is not so much unplanned as not to react to spontaneity, interventions, and things beyond your power. For Alice it is also a hopeful answer, she will get somewhere, so long as she simply sets out. It is the intention of beginning that is important, not the presumed end. The insight is, we can’t see the end even if we were to plan it, because we can’t control it. So for me life has been a journey in a real sense, intentionally setting out, but not presuming too much about where it all might end.

I nominate:

Englepip’s World

Flowers and Breezes

Dark Anki

 

Paul,

pvcann.com

 

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