Corellas flock together, gregarious by nature, foraging, bathing, flying, playing, they love being together, even when roosting for the night. It is rare to see a lone one and there’s an apparent sadness when one dies. Many animals are gregarious by nature, humans especially, whether introverted or extroverted.
You can be introverted and gregarious too, just in smaller doses, as author Karen Armstrong puts it: “I like silence; I’m a gregarious loner and without the solitude, I lose my gregariousness.” As author Susan Cain says: “To be introverted is to be concerned about how you respond to stimulation, especially social stimulation.” Or as poet Norman MacCaig once said: “I’m very gregarious, but I love being in the hills on my own.” As an extrovert I can still relate to that.
The cost is different. Introverts will feel drained after much social stimulus, whereas, while extroverts my feel tired, they will thrive on social stimulus. But both will become vulnerable because there is always a risk in social interaction to the self. We as a human community thrive better when we have social interaction, when we work together, when we can make friends, work in teams, and when we can walk alongside one another. We just need to appreciate each other’s needs more accutely in the area of personality. To be introverted is not a negative pathology, I should know I live with a household of introverts, and I get reminded. We’re all gregarious, just differently wired.
The video below of Susan Cain speaking from the perspective of an introvert may seem long at 19 minutes, but it is well worth a look.
We're in full swing you withdraw, I re-engage elementary ©Paul Cannon