I can be sympathetic, I think many people are. Sympathy is wonderful on face value, that warm feeling of mutuality when a problem is disclosed, the sense of compassion or at least commisseration, agreement. But if I’m the one with the problem I really desire empathy. Empathy is when someone can actually feel what I’m experiencing, someone can see what I see, stand where I stand. For me, sympathy is welcome, but empathy trumps sympathy every time, it goes deeper.